Sunday, 28 February 2021

Why it's OK to have Bad Days

Recently I had a massive setback- well, what I thought was going to be massive, and because I felt like I had gone so many steps back after making so much progress in the last year, I thought I was back at square one. I was so mad at myself and felt so stupid and weak because it took something so small to undo all my progress, but all I needed to do was take a step back and look at the bigger picture. Yes it WAS something so small, so why am I giving myself such a hard time for it? We all have bad days, it's totally normal, but that's all it is- a bad DAY. Not a bad WEEK. Not a bad MONTH, it was 24 hours. Tomorrow you will wake up and have the opportunity to start again and decide you are in a good mood, yesterday was a write off and you're not going to let how you felt then affect how you feel now. For now, acknowledge the bad day, accept it as being totally normal and let yourself feel a bit shit for a bit! I feel like this is where I went wrong, I tried to block out the bad day by forcing myself to be productive and busy and happy and social, when it was actually doing much more damage than good. I should have just let myself cry in bed watching Real Housewives for a couple of hours before I felt ready to move past the feeling.

Obviously it's easier said than done, because you can't just turn your emotions off and on as you wish (if this was the case then mine would be all the way off for the rest of eternity!!!!!!), and I know I've touched on it before, but just by writing yourself a to-do list, no matter how comprehensive, to complete the next day gives you something to take your mind being all up in your feelings again, and ticking off each task as you complete it makes you feel productive and you'll go to bed feeling like you've achieved something, as opposed to feeling like a useless lump. (Been there MANY times, my friends!)

Depending on how bad my day was, my list will consist of anything from making my bed, doing a YouTube workout, going for a walk and listening to my audiobook, replying to voice notes from my friends, making cookies (obsessed with the mini egg ones from Jane's Patisserie and they're so easy to make!), and it always ends with writing in my gratitude journal. I find writing 3 good things that happened that day always makes me go to bed feeling somewhat positive.

And remember! Depression looks like this:


And this:



And also like this:


You don't have to be bawling your eyes to be going through a hard time, but please don't suffer in silence. Talk to your friends or family, find something to do that takes your mind off the situation and just remember how far you've come.

On that note, I'm off for a walk in the sun with my best friend and her puppy, feeling very loved and very grateful. What a difference a week makes!

3 comments:

  1. Hey, just been reading your blog & seen the tough time you have been having. Just want to say stay strong Claudia, i know too well how hard things can be from my own up and down journey over the last 5 years. You are doing great and it is admiirable how open and honest you are about it.

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    1. Thanks so much Sid. Hope you're well! xx

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    2. Yeah i am really good thanks. Had an up and down few years with my alopecia so i know exactly what you are going through. Glad to see you are being strong about it all though. Xx

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