Why Being an Oversharer Isn't a Bad Thing

At least once a week I see one of those ‘A quiet life is a happy life’ or something else about keeping your boyfriend/girlfriend secret being the key to a long successful relationship. YAWN. I’m an oversharer and I always have been. Partly because I’m usually the loudest one in the room and I always have something interesting to say (modest, I know) but also because people knowing my business really doesn’t annoy me- and that’s the same online. I love making people laugh and I love being at the centre of a conversation, and that usually involves me sharing stories about my tragic Bridget-Jones-esque daily life.

I post a LOT on IG. I really like thinking out loud to my followers on my IG stories and getting the most hilarious responses back. Of course, I get the odd one every so often telling me to stfu which absolutely baffles me because??? You’re?? Still?? Following? Me?????

When it comes to relationships, I see these quotes ALLLLL the time:

• The best parts of my life didn’t make it to social media
• Be lowkey, be private, be humble
• A quiet relationship is a happy relationship
• Relationships last longer when nobody knows your business

All equally as cringe as each other, but not as cringe as people that share it like it’s the absolute gospel and if you even THINK about setting yourself as ‘in a relationship’ on Facebook with your 10-year strong boyfriend you’re going to burst into flames and he’s going to run off with your mum. I’m currently single, but when I did have a boyfriend (lol) I would post about him all the time! In fact, he featured so regularly on my IG stories that my followers would talk about him to me like they knew him as well which I thought was hilarious! (and quite cute)

When I was younger, and I would go on a date,  I used to do the whole- take a photo of my wine glass on the dinner table in a restaurant and just get a teeny glimpse of his watch in the background- and then act all coy when I got bombarded with WHO IS THAT!!!! messages, but now I’m just over it. I mean, I’m not QUITE at the Tessa Durkin level of doing an IG live on a first date (#ICONIC) but I’m a lot more relaxed about the severity of posting boys on my IG. As in, it’s reeeeally not that deep. If I wanna do it I will, and if I don’t, I won’t. It’s not going to effect the relationship.

Obviously, the quotes above are related to cheating, which brings me to my second point- WHY HAVE A PARTNER IF YOU ARE GOING TO CHEAT ON THEM?! Of course a bloody quiet relationship is a happy relationship cos your 7 different girlfriends don’t know about each other!

Someone else DM’ed me recently and said they never need to check how I am because they see it every day on IG, and I couldn’t decide if it was a compliment or a bit of a dig? On the plus side it means I’m not dead in a gutter somewhere because I’m still posting, but on the downside, I wouldn’t want it to mean my friends to stop contacting me because they get complacent watching me chat shit on the reg online? I mean, as much as I am v. active online, I still like to have a real social life with real people!

I’ve probably been on IG for about 5 years now, and it still really makes me smile when I mention something that happened ages ago, and people reply like OMG I REMEMBER THIS! (Mainly Sorority Girls related stuff because I am still determined to be famous and this is all I’ve got going for me atm so let me live #neverforget) I love that my followers feel like they know me, or can relate to me, or, even though it sounds SO cringey, even if I just make one person smile that day then it makes me smile!

At the end of the day, it’s social media. Everyone has seen the show Catfish- why would you pretend to be someone else online? (YES, I’m just as loud n proud in the flesh)

You have the power to click the unfollow button if you feel like someone is OTT. Keep seeing them crop up? BLOCK THEM! Wanna talk on IG about how your period bled through your jeans that day? DO IT! Dying reply to that fit boys DM even though you have a bf? CHEAT ON THEM! (Ok, so I’m joking about the last one ok)

What are your thoughts about oversharing online? How much is too much?