Monday, 21 May 2018

11 Life Lessons I've Learned So Far..

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So, on Wednesday I turned the big 2-6. Not such a monumental, mile-stone of an age to some, but to me, it means I’m now closer to 30 than 20. *shudders* It’s actually so weird, because I still think of me and my brothers as being teenagers, when in fact we are 26, 27 and 28. (Fun fact- my mum actually wanted 8 children, but she stopped after having me because apparently I was too attention seeking as a child… I personally have no idea what she’s on about. *flicks hair*)

As well as going out almost every night for the last 2 weeks and eating and drinking myself into oblivion to celebrate, I wanted to share 26 lessons I’ve learned in my life so far. Some serious, not so serious, but here goes. (Edit: I was going to do 26, but I ran out of steam at 11...whoops!)

  1. Surgery is expensive. And addictive.
  2. Career paths are never straight forward. I mean, I’m 26 and I still don’t know what I want to do. I remember having careers lessons in high school where we discussed the job we would want to do in the future. As far as we were all aware, we went to sixth form, then university, then got a job and that was us for the rest of our lives. No mention of going self-employed, the difficulty of getting a job in your field without years of experience, changing your mind, paying taxes etc etc. Also, my career of choice was always an actress sooooooo…yeah. Completely unrealistic. (Still waiting for my big break btw if Steven Spielberg/any talent scouts are reading this)
  3. BE PATIENT. I'm super impulsive and hate waiting around for anything. As soon as I see something I think I like, I want it straight away. And this isn’t just clothes or small things- it’s cars, houses (renting, obv) so thank GOD for my mum and dad who help me (unwillingly) step back and look at the bigger picture before holding off and waiting for something better to come along. And it always does. 
  4. Keeping in touch is so important. I am so fortunate to have a group of girlfriends who I’ve been best friends with for the last 9 years. Some have stayed in Preston, some moved away then came back, some completely relocated. I’ve been to Sheffield, Wakefield and now London, which is obviously a lot further away. Yeah, I miss out on a lot of social events now, but I never everfeel out of touch, and when we do see each other it’s like we’ve never been apart, and there is no better feeling than that.
  5. Boys are dumb. Ok. Maybe this is slightly bitter. But since I broke up with my ex, I haven’t properly liked anyone. Then as soon as I do (and this was pretty recent) he completely ghosted me after 2 dates. *insert tumbleweed noise here* Part of me is like UGH what a prick he didn’t deserve me anyway etc etc etc, and part of me just wants to text him like erm heya was it something I said?????? (Seriously though I have no idea what happened I thought it was actually going really well?!) So basically my love life can currently be described as sleeping diagonally in my bed and haven’t shaved my legs for 3 weeks. But this whole thing taught me that I will never do this to anyone else. 
  6.  Don't change for anyone. Relocating to different cities a few times in the last few years meant I was suddenly surrounded by strangers as opposed to my friends or family. Some of them became friends, but a lot of them I either worked with, or lived with, and basically couldn't avoid them. But I found my personality changing to suit the surroundings. And it just wasn't me.
  7.  Saving money is impossible. But again. This is going to  be a work in progress- probably for the rest of my life- but unless my sugar daddy reveals himself, or I learn to stop spending money as easily as I breathe, it's going to continue to be a work in progress.
  8. Don't stop chasing your dreams. This sounds like such a Ghandi moment, BUT I don't mean it in a Fiat 500 way (Twitter readers will understand, everyone else won't), I basically mean don't settle. I quit my job last year and had no idea what the hell I was going to do, but I have always been a super hard worker, and my motivation has always been to be happy. I never want to be in a position where I am coming in to work absolutely dreading it, or hating my colleagues, or generally not enjoying myself, because you're at work for 5 out of the 7 days so there's got to be SOME form of enjoyment there. If I'm not happy, I find something else. I never settle. And I never want to start settling. I always want to strive for something bigger, or better!
  9. Enjoy what you have! I'm always making plans. There is rarely a weekend that passes where I have zero plans, or I'm just sitting around the house bored af. But I always wish time away because I'm looking forward to the next event so I don't enjoy the moment. I want to start doing this more. Just taking a few minutes to reflect on the positives. Maybe I'll gather up my housemates at the end of each day and we can tell each other the pit and the peak of each day, like the Kardashians.
  10. Instagram is not real life. I work in a digital industry, so I am ALWAYS on social media. I'm not alone when I say I spend hours scrolling through Instagram at people staying in those overwater villas in the Maldives, or showing off their new £1.2k Gucci bag, or posing at the wheel of their Range Rover. And I have to admit, I get SO jealous. But it's Instagram. You choose what to post. And to be fair, when I post photos of my life in London I get messages from people back home saying how much I'm living the dream or how they want my life, whereas I think that about the next person, so it's like you always want what you can't have.
  11. Experiences are worth SO much more than materialistic things! I'm SO glad I realised this a few years ago, when I sold my Louis Vuitton bag and put the money toward a flight to spend Christmas and New Year in Thailand with my friends. It's pretty self explanatory, why would you want to spend £1k on a handbag when it means you have no money to go out and show it off?! Even for my last couple of birthdays I've told friends and family to take me out for dinner, or book a show for us to go to- something together, instead of buying me a gift, because memories are sooooooo much more valuable to me!

What advice do you wish you had learned earlier?

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