Sunday, 26 February 2017

MY 2017 BUCKET LIST


Take a course in make-up artistry
I get so jealous every time I scroll down my Insta-feed to see mega-babes looking absolutely smokin' with their flawless skin, nose highlight and fleeky brows which I can not seem to achieve through YouTube tutorials (ok so I've attempted it once, whatever) so I am going to admit defeat and book a 1-2-1 lesson with an MUA. I have already found the girl I want to learn from so I just need to pencil something in now.


Hit 10k followers on Instagram/Twitter
My social following has been slowly but steadily increasing more and more recently, so hopefully things will continue and I will get those numbers up! (please note- this does NOT mean I consider quantity more important than quality. If I did I would have bought 10k followers for £15 or whatever it is already.)

Go on another holiday
Which isn't Marbella. I wanna go somewhere faaaaar away, like Thailand (again) or Vegas. And if I end up booking too many mini-breaks this year (I've already booked Belfast and Amsterdam) I want to at least put the deposit down for a 2018 mega-break.

Save a reasonable amount of money
'Reasonable' being the key word here. I'm scared to write an actual figure in case my mum is reading and keeping hounding me about it. If you didn't already know, I am unbelievably skilled in pissing money up the wall (pardon the expression) so I need to  use some serious willpower to achieve this. In theory, it shouldn't be hard, because we have a family accountant, so I just need to set up a standing order to her every month and watch the $$$$ roll in! Just kinda never got round to that standing order.........

Work with some more high profile brands
I have worked with some pretty exciting brands recently, so I just need to keep up with the consistency of my blog, actually USE my brand spanking new Olympus Pen and do a little more networking!

Get a promotion at work
I love my job, and I think if you love your job you genuinely want to push yourself and get more responsibilities and recognition. So I'm in a good place!

Learn how to use iMovie to make some killllller YT videos
First I need to film them. Watch this space.

Take on another challenge
I definitely caught the fitness bug last year. I stepped WAY out of my comfort zone and completed the Yorkshire Three Peaks, Born Survivor, Rough Runner AND a half marathon! All within 5 months! *dusts off shoulders* I really enjoy pushing myself to complete things I never dreamed would be possible for me, so I'm currently the look out for my next challenge!

Get an Oliver Bonas pink velvet tub chair for my bedroom
*swoons* If anyone is feeling generous I've linked the title straight to the product. DM me for my address.

What are you hoping to achieve this year?

Friday, 24 February 2017

How to Get Over Your Ex

Ok, this post has been in drafts for MONTHS. Seriously, months. For two reasons. Number 1 is because I have never felt completely ready to post it, I always hover over the 'publish' button, then go back to edit a bit, or change a few words, delete something I think might be too personal, and then save it as a draft. (Even though I am the Queen of the over-sharers, I know!) And number 2 is that deep down, I didn't feel like I was over him yet. So how on earth was I going to post my advice on getting over your ex when I wasn't even over my own?!

Theres loads of theories about problem sharing. One is to tell a complete stranger, just as a way to get it off your chest (and my Mum always says 'a problem shared is a problem halved!') And to some extent I agree, but to another I think, well why? How can they offer me advice when they don't know me, or any of the people involved? Anyway, the point of this post is to get it off MY chest, and hopefully if anyone is going through the same thing it could help you too.



I'll start with a bit of a back story, without going into TOO much detail. I've only ever had one boyfriend in my whole life, and we were together for just over two years. I was absolutely completely 100% head over heels MADLY in love with him, and everyyyyyone knew, cos I spoke about him all the time. We made so many amazing memories, went on holiday 3 times, we lived together, and if I wasn't with him I was texting him or on the way to meet him. At one point we both worked in the same shopping mall, and we would go and see each other on our breaks, or try and plan our lunches together so we could go and eat in the food court. Like, we were seriously joined at the hip. But unfortunately, like in most relationships, we started arguing. He was controlling, I was childish, and we started wanting different things from life which led to us breaking up, and I moved back in with my parents. At first it was something I wanted, but EVERYTHING reminded me of him. Like, the tiniest thing- a TV show, an accent, a location- reminded me of a time we had together. There's a quote I saw on one of those cringy Instagram quote pages that was something like 'It's about who you miss at 2pm when you're busy, not 2am when you're lonely' and I just started welling up cos it was exactly my situation, I thought about him every second of every day. And the worse thing was that he was moving on. And I wasn't.

It made me really angry because I felt like that for months afterwards. Thinking about him every day without fail, knowing he wasn't thinking about me. Of course I went on dates and whatever, but he was still in the back of my mind, so I could never properly let my guard down and think about moving on.  It was only until now- EIGHTEEN MONTHS LATER, that I can honestly say I'm over him and I am ready to move on. I know I've always been confident, (loud) and on the surface I was always my usual chirpy self, but it's been a seriously tough time for me, and there's been so many times I just get home and cry because he's moved on and I haven't, and I just felt, well, weak. And I didn't want anyone else to know. Not even my family or my friends. I felt like I would never let anyone love me again and I would be one of those people who never had a +1 for a wedding.

Break-ups are always going to be horrible. You invest so much time and love into someone just to turn into complete strangers that probably wouldn't even say hello to each other if you were passing in the street. But now that I've been through it, I want to share some advice for anyone else in the same position I was.

1. Don't compromise your own happiness for someone else's.
There were so many times when I cancelled plans, or didn't go for something I wanted because he didn't want me to. I got to the final stages of a grad scheme which would involved me relocating to Reading, and I had to say no because he didn't want me to go. This got worse further along into the relationship, where I nearly had to cancel a trip to Marbella as well as countless nights out where I had to make an excuse not to go, because he wanted me to stay in. DON'T accept this as the norm. You are your OWN person, and if they don't like you having a social life, or a healthy balance of seeing them and your friends, then something is seriously wrong. 

2. Don't rely on that person for support. 
When the break-up is fresh, it's easy to just overlook the low points of the relationship and want to get back together because you see them as a safe bet. A comfort blanket. It's soooo nerve racking to go from being so comfortable around someone to be flung head first back into the dating game. But some things just don't work out, it's natural. It doesn't mean you're now damaged goods and nobody will ever love you like that ever again. They will. And it will be 10000% times better. Delete their number and block them all on social media so you aren't tempted to stalk. Trust me, I stalked and it was the worse decision I have ever made.

3. Make amazing plans with your friends.
As well as taking your mind off the situation, you can experience things that you perhaps couldn't do when you were chained to the house in a relationship. I am a such a social butterfly, I LOVE being out- drinking, dancing, meeting new people, and I let that person take that away from me. Since we broke up, I've been to Berlin, Thailand, Marbella, Barcelona, Belfast, London, and made some of the best, most outrageous, unforgettable memories of my life so far. I previously started to slip away from my group of friends, and now I'm back, we are stronger than ever, and I couldn't thank them enough for just being so supportive and amazing.

4. Don't settle for second best.
Back to the dating game I mentioned earlier. I'm not saying 'to get over someone, you have to get under someone else' cos you will need some time to yourself to heal. But when you are ready to date (and when I say date, I mean download Tinder or give your number to that absolute worldy who asked for your number in a bar last weekend) go for it, but DON'T rush anything, just for the sake of shedding your newly-single status. Get to know someone who genuinely makes you laugh, holds a text conversation that makes you want to stay up late to reply to, and that you look forward to seeing. Rare, I know, but it will be worth waiting for!

5. Learn to love yourself again.
I actually cringe writing that, because I feel like your gonna be reading this thinking I'm sitting cross-legged in my bedroom wearing a loin cloth surrounded by incense sticks and tapestry hanging on the walls like Buddha, thinking I'm all self-righteous. But seriously, you need to realise that you do NOT need a man to make you happy, or feel good about yourself. So many girls come out of relationships with super low self esteem because of little jibes from their other halves, and I was the same. I was called Gemma Collins, an elephant, that my nose was big, my boobs weren't big enough, and even though he thought it was 'just a joke', comments like that really hurt. Especially when I have always been self conscious. Look in the mirror and instead of pointing out stuff you hate, concentrate on the stuff you LOVE (everyone has a particular feature they love the most!) and for the stuff you do dislike, change it! I hated my legs, so I've joined a running club, and I'm also lifting more weights in the gym. Get your Khloe K revenge body on!


The 15 best friends that anyone could have!

This is by no means a dig at my own ex boyfriend. I loved him way too much to stoop as low as publicly bashing him on the internet.  It's a kind of 'you live and you learn' thing. I might end up deleting this, but for now, I really hope if you are/or have been in my position that it can make you feel better about yourself, and your future. (even if it's just a tiny bit!)

Tuesday, 14 February 2017

12 Things I LOVE (In the Spirit of Valentine's Day!)

Can you BELIEVE I am single?!?!!?!? Joking. In fact, I’ve only ever had one Valentine, which lasted just over two years. So, for a measly two Valentine’s Day’s in the whole of my 24 years on this earth I have been allowed to be all lovey-dovey and soppy and spread it all over the internet. AAAAAaaannd now I’m back to getting Valentine’s Day cards and presents off my Mum. Not that that is a bad thing- Ollie Wright doesn’t mess about when it comes to V-Day presents! This year she bought me a coconut milk EOS balm, a tiny gold chain from UO with a tiny ‘C’ on it, and a glass teapot with some fancy green tea from Whittards. VERY posh indeed. (I love green tea, FYI.) Also, HOW cute is that card?! My parents are so adorable I can't deal!



Even though I don’t have a boyfriend, I can’t stand all the ‘Valentine’s Day is just a load of commercialised rubbish making us think we must throw money away on stupid cards and teddies and flowers’ or ‘you should show you boyfriend/girlfriend you love them EVERY day, not just February 14th!’ BORE. OFF. Stop being so negative keep your miserable comments to yourself. 1. Who needs another reason to give/receive a present from their partner? It’s like an extra birthday! And 2. If I got my boyfriend a card every day of the year, the novelty would soon wear off. And I would be skint. And the world would have zero trees left. It’s always the bitter, single ones anyway!

I love scrolling down my TL and seeing what everyone surprised their loved ones with! I think it’s so cute! I will mentally plan in my head what I would have bought my other half if I had one and maybe my situation will have changed by next year. LOL.


Actual representation of my life in 10 years

Anyway, whilst I am waiting for the postman to pull up with the truck full of cards and presents for me I have decided to share 12 general things I love. Enjoy!

1. Belly laughing when I’m in public, so uncontrollably that it becomes infectious and strangers start smiling and laughing too.

2. When I go back to my Mum and Dad’s house for the weekend and my mums made my favourite tea ready for my arrival. It’s this cabbage, tofu and cashew nut stir fry thing, sounds rank, I know, but it is SO good. And she always makes extra so I can take a huge Tupperware back to Wakefield with me and eat it for every meal for the next week.

3. When I go out for ‘a drink’ with a friend, and it ends up spiralling waaaay out of control and we roll in at stupid-o-clock the next day.

4. When the Homegyals make plans and everyone (all 14 of us!) are in attendance! #SQUADGOALS

5. Getting comments on my blog post/YT videos saying how much that person loves me and my blog. It makes the hours of blogging, photo taking and trawling the interest for funny gif’s at 2am SO worth it!

6. Slowly but surely upping my weights at the gym. Now I live in Wakefield and my social life has taken a massive step down (during the week anyway, my weekends have taken a step up!) I attend Body Pump at least twice a week, and I’m really noticing a difference in my strength, and it feels GOOD. (Is that a bicep muscle I am seeing?!?!?)

7. Getting to the till and finding the item I’m buying is cheaper than I thought. EXTREMELY rare occasion, but when you shop as much as me it really is a treat!

8.  Meeting up with an old friend and it feeling as though we have never been apart.




9. When my make-up looks as good IRL as it does when I’m using the beauty filter on Snapchat (usually after 3 hours of priming)

10. All dayers in the sun with my best friends. There is something about drinking in the day that makes me feel like I'm on holiday (this can't just be me?!) And day drinking also means I'm not as hungover the next day. Although usually I end up going out afterwards and being even more hungover for two whole days afterwards and about £100 down. SO worth it though!

11. Painting my nails before bed and waking up to find that they haven't smudged.

12. Celebrity Twitter beef. *opens popcorn*

Other singletons- what are your favourite things?! Tweet me!




Sunday, 5 February 2017

Oliver Bonas Homeware Wishlist


Heart Teaspoons (plus £1 goes to The Eve Appeal charity so even more reason to invest!)
Velvet Tub Chair | Trinket Dish | Sheepskin Cushion
Hexagon Tables | Gold Drinks Trolley | Andy Warhol Wall Art



What do you currently have on your homeware wish list? I can't wait till I buy my first house purely for the fact I can design and style every room!