Saturday, 1 September 2018

September Goals

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Each year I post my same old, stale af New Years resolutions: lose weight, save money and travel more. ( I also said my resolution this year was to be able to do the splits which I am THRILLED to announce that out of all my goals this is the only one I can do! Much to the delight of all my friends when I bust them out at every party or gathering I have attended in the last two months.)
As of this month, I am going to post monthly goals, so I can try and tackle them in smaller chunks and actually attempt to have some form of control over my life so the first time in 26 years.

1.       Save!!

Ok, so this was inevitably going to be number one, BUT I’ve actually made a bit of progress on this thanks to a certain app called Chip. Basically, you download it, and it links to your bank account and automatically saves a random amount depending on your cash flow activity that week. So if you’ve spent looooooads, it might save £4.32, but on the week you’ve just been paid, it might save £26.76. Really random amounts, but you don’t even notice them get taken out and VOILA, you’ve saved almost £1,000 in a year. (I hope) If you DO download it, which I highly recommend, use the code V1SQJJ and we both get an extra 1% interest on our savings! FREE MONEY!

2.       Stick to a fitness routine

I’m not even gonna say ‘lose weight’ cos I always lose weight and get to a size I’m happy with- then go on a massive bender with a 4-day hangover, consume my bodyweight in Deliveroo’s and then I’m back to square one and my motivation is out the window. I work NEXT to the gym ffs so I have no excuse. Actually – my excuse is that I have zero willpower and I love a naughty G&T (or 5) on a school night because I don’t know how to say no.

If I manage to secure a few brand collabs under my belt I might pay for a month at F45 (£165) or Ministry Does Fitness (£99) but at the moment I just can NOT justify that money on working out if I’m just going to ruin it on the weekends. So I hereby declare THIS as the start of my healthy lifestyle- will report back next month!

3.       Get back into blogging

I have been a VERY naughty blogger recently and haven’t posted since JUNE when I had dinner with Pandora at the Ivy. *paints nails emoji* I’m so flattered when I get messages on Twitter and Instagram from people telling me they love my blog, so I feel like I’m letting you guys down when I go MIA! I want to get back in the swing of things so I’m going to blog at LEAST twice a month. (This is number one)

4.       Make more effort with my friends

When you move to a different city it’s so easy to fall into a routine of seeing the same friends each week. Especially when they live close to you or you have the same mutual friends. I hate losing touch with people, and even though they’re the kind of friends that I could not see for 2 years and then meet up like nothings changed, I still want to make time to see them more frequently. Especially when we all live in London.

5.       Be more active on social!

Commenting Instagram posts instead of just liking them! Replying to tweets! Engaging in blogger chats! Subscribing to YouTube! I want to chat to my followers and friends more, so I’m going to try my hardest to do this.


6.       YouTube

I get asked about this ALL the time but I feel like my life isn’t exciting enough to blog?!!??! Maybe. It’s a work in progress. (PS if my future sugardaddy is reading this then I want the Canon PowerShot G7 X Mark II plz)


What are your September goals? Do you find setting smaller goals each month makes them more achievable?

Why it’s OK to be the Single Friend!

Me trying to subtly announce to the boys of Clapham that I am single and available

Since I split up with my ex, and only boyfriend I’ve ever had in 2015, I’ve been THE SINGLE FRIEND. I’m fortunate to have had the same group of friends since I was in college (almost 10 years!) and during university, everyone started to get boyfriends, some serious, some not. But as we got older, and the relationships officially got to the ‘long-term’ status, my status stayed the same, single.

At first it didn’t bother me, I was 23, I was living away from home, I went out with my other single friends, did what I want, pulled who I wanted- it was the dream! I loved being single.

However, in the last couple of years I’ve been having second thoughts. I felt myself getting jealous of seeing couples doing cute stuff together and starting to actually create a future together. Not just people on Instagram with their outrageous baby showers and date nights, but my own best friends! Buying houses, having babies, getting engaged, serious stuff!

I mean, everyone gets to that point, around 8pm when the Sunday night dread kicks in and you just wanna order Dominos and Netflix and chill with someone you fancy, but I felt a bit left out. One of my friends had an engagement party last year, and we all met up at the pub beforehand- 6 couples and me. Fortunately, one of the girls’ boyfriends couldn’t make it so we were in the same boat- but talk about reality check!!!!!

I recently used the question feature on my Instagram for people to reveal their worst ever date, and as well as being one of the funniest things I’ve EVER read, it made me think about all the failed, hilariously tragic dates I had been on. I couldn’t even imagine any of those boys getting a second date, never mind being my boyfriend! As much as I love my friends to pieces, and I am SO proud of them, I’m 26. I live in London where I am meeting new people every day. Yeah, I get needy on a Sunday night but I’ve got housemates I can climb into bed with and eat junk food with, and it’s not like my friends are uncontactable just because they have a boyfriend. They’re exactly the same.

Yeah, when the time is right, and I meet someone I actually want to go on a second date with (and third and fourth and fifth) then YOU BET I’ll be uploading photos of us at the top of the Eiffel Tower orriding a Gondola in Venice, or having a swanky dinner anniversary dinner at Roka or Hakkasan (or another restaurant that’s WAY to expensive to justify for a casual dinner with friends) but for now I’m going to stop letting my relationship status affect me and carry on snogging boys in Infernos at 3am on a Saturday night.

Joking.

Maybe.

Wednesday, 20 June 2018

A Floral Evening at the Ivy with Pandora

As I still consider myself pretty new to London, and my bucket list of places I want to visit is still HUGE (and growing by the day!) I was absolutely over the moon to not only receive an invitation from Pandora, but to be able to visit the gorgeous Ivy Garden in Chelsea. The event was an evening of floral crown making, champagne, and of course, to showcase their latest pieces of jewellery, inspired by wedding season. (which is currently in its peak, FYI. So get shopping!)
 

My first memory of Pandora was when I was around 17- when everyone was OBSESSED with the charm bracelets. I was going out with this boy at college and told him I wanted a Pandora bracelet and ‘like ten charms’ for Christmas. Little did I know…. He genuinely did get me a Pandora bracelet and TEN charms!!! Safe to say I was a spoilt little egg that year! Fast forward 8 years, I’m out of my charm bracelet phase but I still love a subtle piece of jewellery that I can wear every day. My ex-boyfriend got me this ring for Valentine’s Day about 4 years ago, and I absolutely LOVE it. Everyone comments on how gorgeous it is, and my Mum has even bought it for herself and both her sisters. The fact it’s still in stores years later shows what a timeless piece of jewellery it is, along with many other pieces I see from Pandora.
I don’t really have many reservations about attending events on my own. I could probably have a conversation with a lamppost, but fortunately for me I was sat with some lovely bloggers, and I spent the whole evening laughing (with a healthy bit of competition thrown in when it came to the crown making!)
When we had all settled and had a glass of champagne (or two) we were given an introduction to the gorgeous new pieces from Pandora and discussed how perfect they are for wedding season, whether you are attending as a guest, a bridesmaid, or even choosing them your own bridal jewellery. We then had a short demonstration of flower crown making, in preparation to have a go at crafting our own. Boho themed weddings are HUGE, and a flower crown really is the piece de resistance. I got a bit carried away with mine (my mantra has ALWAYS been the bigger, the better) but I thought I did pretty well! Whilst we were working away on our crowns, we enjoyed some absolutely incredible canapes (It was the Ivy, after all) and another 349827439 glasses of champagne, and I got to know the girls from Pandora and my fellow bloggers a little better.


I ended up staying quite a while post-crown making because I was having such a fun time, but when I did leave, I was gifted the most beautiful gems from Pandora: a beautiful pair or crown earrings and a stunning necklace.
Thank you SO much Pandora for a really fabulous evening!
Get inspired for your perfect wedding jewellery here. Or shop the necklace range here.

Monday, 18 June 2018

Thinking of Getting a Botox Brow Lift Treatment?

Earlier this month, I went to the You Glo clinic on Harley Street to get a little bit of Botox under my eyebrows. I’ve always been conscious of my ‘hooded’ eyelids, so I was looking forward to seeing how the treatment would lift my face and alter the appearance of my eyes.
Prior to the actual procedure, I sat down with Dr Maryam and told her exactly what I wanted, and she gave me a full run- down of what was involved. It was almost pain-free (especially if you were comparing it to lip fillers!) and the whole treatment only took about 20 minutes. She injected in three areas around my eyes- under my brow bone, at the front of my eyebrow and at the top of my forehead. This is because Botox freezes the muscle, so by pinpointing these three places, they help to lift the whole area and give my brows the ‘lifted’ look that I wanted.
The aftercare was pretty straightforward too. Dr Maryam told me to avoid touching my face (risk of infection as well as a risk of manipulating or moving the Botox) and wash and cleanse my face as soon as I got home.
I have been asked so many questions about the treatment on Instagram (I always film my treatments!) so I have tried to answer all your questions below. I’m more than happy to talk in more detail with anyone considering getting Botox so feel free to drop me a DM if I have missed anything!


#unphased
 

Does it hurt?
No! And I’m not just saying that because the number of treatments I’ve had now means my pain threshold is getting higher. You feel a tiny prick- not even as sharp as a bee sting- and that’s it. Absolutely no pain the following day either.
Were the results instant?
I could notice a subtle lift straight away, but the muscle takes up to 2 weeks to freeze completely.
 
Was there a big difference?
Nothing earth-shattering, but that’s what you want with Botox! I didn’t want to waltz into the office the next day looking like I had had my cheeks pulled back and stapled behind my ears, but Dr Maryam had explained this in my consultation. She also said that if I did want something a little tighter and more dramatic, that I could go back in for a threading treatment. (Where they thread through your skin and pull it up- like Lauren on Real Housewives of Cheshire) I’m sliiiiightly hesitant about this because it looks painful, but it’s tempting!
 
How much did it cost?
Prices start from £180 for Botox.
 
Would you recommend it?
Yes, especially for those looking for a subtle lift and tighten. I’m really impressed!

 
Head over to You Glo's website for more information.

Wednesday, 13 June 2018

I Tried Positive Thinking for a Week and This is What Happened..

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Going off the title of this blog post you would think I was a right miserable old bitch who only manages to crack a smile once every few months. That is NOT the case, FYI. I’m pretty much always cheerful. I LOVE laughing. In fact I whole-heartedly believe that laughter is the best medicine for anything, and fortunately for me, I’ve got a really solid group of friends that make me laugh (almost) every day.

However, some days, when the tiniest thing goes wrong, it ruins my whole day. And I let it ruin my whole day. I think this is partly due to anxiety and the fact I overthink every tiny detail of everything in the world ever, but partly due to me letting my negative mindset overrule the positive. I was on a shoot at work last month, and we had the loveliest make-up artist in who was the most positive, sweetest woman I have EVER met (soz mum) and she said that every day when you wake up, you should say “I am loved, and I am blessed” out loud to yourself in the mirror. At first, I laughed and was a bit like erm wtf, but I’m going to give it a go and see how it changes (if at all) my life.

Monday
What better day to start than a Monday! Not going to lie, it could have started better as I had the most disrupted night’s sleep EVER. I went to sleep around midnight, woke up at 3, then couldn’t get back to sleep till 6. I spent my time valuably though- did you know you can watch Jaws the movie on a boat on the River Thames?!?! My actual dream! Unfortunately, it’s on June 16th and I’m at a day party that day, so I doubt I’ll be in a fit state to board a moving vessel that evening. Anyway, I should have been in a bad mood, but I had some amazing news yesterday that has given me a massive burst of motivation- I can’t say what it is just yet, but it’s to do with my career, and if it works out it’s going to be v. exciting.

I also read in the paper this morning that an effective method to boost your self-confidence and mood is to write down two compliments you have received that day, so I’ve decided to apply that to this little positivity experiment too…. Still waiting on the first one mind you 😐

I didn’t want to let a weekend of eating junk dull my mood, (I get hung up about my body on a daily basis) so I brought my gym kit and headed to a lunchtime circuits class. (Exercise = endorphins and all that) I usually go after work, but Love Island starts tonight, so I need to ensure I am home, settled and ready for the clock to strike 21:00.

Monday, done…So far so good! No bAd VibeZ. *insert peace finger symbol and crystal ball emoji here*

Tuesday
Tuesday is officially the worst day of the week. It’s not Monday, where everyone is still kind of getting over the weekend, so it flies by pretty quick, and it’s not Wednesday where at least you have the motivation that you’re already halfway through the week. Not to mention I am still FUMES about last night’s Love Island ending on a cliff-hanger! I NEED to know who Adam picks?!?!?! And I came into work to an extremely rude and abrupt email which was just so unnecessary. Anyway *thinks positive* I went to the gym AGAIN at lunch with my friend Hattie (allllll about those endorphins!) I found out I won a load of Charlotte Tilbury make-up and I’m going to an event with Pandora at the swanky Ivy hotel tonight. Pro’s are definitely outweighing the cons here.


Compliments: non. AGAIN. In fact, when I came out the gym, I bumped into a colleague and she didn’t even recognise me. Brill. Oh actually, a boy sent me the heart eyes emoji on Bumble.. does that count? 

Wednesday
So, I probably had one (or ten) glasses of champagne too many at the Pandora event last night, but it was SO GOOD! We made flower crows and ate boujee canapes and talked and laughed and it was just a fabulous event- thank you for having me Pandora! (So gutted because I took so many gorgeous photos of the room and the table but I can't get them back now because I lost my phone before I got chance to upload this blog post.) I woke up thinking it was Friday. Brill. BUT my housemate Rach (who also got v. drunk last night) was really late for work which meant we could walk to the tube together hehe. (I am so needy)


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Had a little stroll in the sun at lunchtime and rang one of my best friends who has just moved to London! Made plans to see her and another friend next Wednesday for dinner and drinks. Having stuff to look forward to creates an instant good mood, right?! Plus, I love drinking on school nights. Not so much the next day. But #YOLO.

Compliments: I got the SWEETEST comment on a photo I uploaded on Instagram from the event last night. It was from a fellow bloggers mum, and it said “Lovely to meet you last night sweetie. You’re a great girl, funny and beautiful.” MY HEART!

Oh, and Hayley told me she liked my top. Oh, and Hattie said my skin was glowy. 

Thursday
I was buzzing all day today because I had plans with my friend Andrew after work, and he is the FUNNEST person ever. The power of positive thinking got me through this whole day because I was gagging for an XL large vino. It was such a fun night too, we met in Soho, went to a few pubs (£16 bottles of wine, FYI) then had a feast in Chinatown (can’t actually remember eating this) then ended up in our FAVOURITE place… the Yard. It’s a gay bar in Soho and we always end up meeting really fun people in there. I actually got a chippy on my way home which really highlights how shocking my diet has been this week. Oh well.

Compliments: I got an email from one of the other bloggers from the Pandora event- the lovely Charlotte. She said sitting next to me was probably the funnest time she's ever had at an event! MY HEART! (AGAIN!) As for compliment number 2 though... Shall I make something up? Someone passed out on the tube because of my overwhelming beauty????? Would you believe me?

Friday
The phrase ‘Happy Friday!’ KILLS me. But it is. And I am POSITIVEEEEE so I won’t cringe at hearing it 500 times today. Also. I’m going on a date tonight. So, I’m not gonna bother writing down my compliments cos I’m probably gonna get 5 million. Well. I better. Or there won’t be a date number 2 I'll tell ya THAT. (If you're reading this then plz will you send a bouquet of roses to my office next week??? Thanks.)

Saturday
So, I lost my phone in the pub so my alarm didn’t go off and I missed my train to Hereford where I was supposed to be spending the weekend with my brother and my parents soooooo….. Not only am I the world’s worst daughter, but I am a social recluse as well. Oh, and it wasn’t insured. So I had to buy another one. But what's £650 between friends, hey? *Wipes sweat from brow* ANYWAY. I had such a cute night hehehehe (TBC...) Not one to waste a preciousSaturday night, I met my friends in Shoreditch and had some (kinda) civilised drinks. Didn’t get a takeaway, didn’t have a cigarette, and was at home in bed (well, Polly’s bed) at a decent time. Fabulous evening!

Sunday
I loveeeeee a lazy Sunday. I got home around 2ish, then lazed in bed catching up on all my favourite reality TV shows (Love Island and Real Housewives of Atlanta) made something actually different for lunch (I usually have the same stir-fried tofu/chicken salad/scrambled eggs) for every meal so that was VERY exciting. Then I watched Love Island with my housemates at 9. Perfect Sunday!


So, what has making a special effort to think positively taught me? As someone who lets the tiniest thing bother them, it made an, albeit subtle, improvement to my anxiety level. It’s made me focus on the good things people say to me and that’s an instant mood booster. It’s also made me really think about just slowing down and enjoying what I’m doing that day, as opposed having some really exciting plans on Saturday and therefore hating every day that week until it reaches Saturday. I’m not at the stage where I am waking up and giving myself the “I am loved and I am blessed” pep talk, but the power of positive thinking really has made a difference!


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